I don't know if this is a hot take or not but to me, being "neurodiverse" mostly describes people who aren't wired in a way that agrees with our current capitalist society where we're constantly prodded to be more productive, more efficient, do more, buy more, achieve all these material goals!! "Neurotypicals" are ok (or at least more ok) with all that pressure and the dynamics that come with it - or maybe more equipped to deal with it. Neurodiverse folks struggle so much more with it, in many different ways.
Of course that's not all there is to it. But overall, I'm of the opinion that each and everyone of us is completely unique anyway... It's just that we feel alienated when our unique traits do not agree with the current societal narrative & we start to create words for it like "neurodiversity". I'm not against that by the way, very much the opposite! Whatever helps us to own our uniqueness is a win in my book 😊

I grew up with an emotionally mature mum and a relatively supportive dad and thank goodness I did because I was a sensitive child with big feelings. My parents validated them and taught me by example (especially my mum) how to regulate myself in healthy ways. That's why I grew up with my self-worth intact despite never feeling like I "fitted in" anywhere in particular. And the big feelings stayed and deepened even more, into a rich inner experience. I grew up valuing true, deep connection with myself and others & slow living & lots of time for creative self-expression. (The school system did do a number on me though and it's taken years to mend some of the damage it's done to my ability to create art freely and playfully)
Do I class myself as neurodiverse? Yeah, definitely, when it comes to my own definion of it. I've had a really hard time carving out a niche for myself where society's demands will leave me in peace. I'm finally on my way to a profession that is in line with my values and will also help me pay the bills which has been my biggest obstacle ever since leaving school. Still, I for one am super glad I'm not "neurotypical" - just looks very dull to me. 😅
Apart from feeling deeply, I have some sensory issues but I can cope with them quite well. I also struggle with planning (a lot!) and slight time-blindness but I feel it's just the flip side of my intuition and spontaneous sparks of enthusiasm that make me forget everything around me. So I accept these traits and develop strategies to cope with the downsides as best as I can. Doesn't always flow as easy as I make it sound but I have a certain inner trust in myself that makes me land on my feet time and again.